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3 Reasons Why You Are Having Trouble Getting an Erection

3 Reasons Why You Are Having Trouble Getting an Erection

Erectile dysfunction is a very common problem, affecting around 30 million people in the United States today. And there isn’t just one type of erectile dysfunction out there. Today I wanted to talk about 3 reasons why you may have trouble getting an erection, but also to let you know there are ways to help you out.  Types of erectile …

How to talk with your partner about trying swinging

How to talk with your partner about trying swinging

What do we mean by “swinging”? At Blue Pearl we define swinging as a couple who engage in no-strings-attached sex with another couple or multiple couples. This can include a full swap of partners, soft swap or same room swinging. “Swinging” in this context refers to both the act of swapping partners with another couple, as well as the identity …

When your partner is not as adventurous as you in bed

When your partner is not as adventurous as you in bed

Sexual compatibility is an important part of any relationship. Sometimes you find a person who matches your sexual energy just right and sometimes you find a partner who requires a little bit of work. We can’t change our partners (or else I wouldn’t have this job). But we do have some control over our relationship dynamics.  If you want your …

Is porn overuse impacting your relationship?

Is porn overuse impacting your relationship?

Hey, y’all, porn can be a lot of fun, trust me. Whether you like it soft and titillating or rough and hands on, porn is often a part of our relationships, even if we don’t immediately realize it.  That’s why after Pornhub shut down access to its site in Texas in March 2024, Google searches for the term “VPN” jumped …

Getting Your Sex Drive Back After Baby

Getting Your Sex Drive Back After Baby

It takes six weeks, the doctors say, for a woman to heal enough after having a baby for her to return to her normal sex life. The problem with that ‘prescription’ is that after having a baby, nothing really returns to ‘normal.’  As any person who has given birth, whether vaginally or via c-section, will tell you – it takes a lot …

Hypnosis-Keeps your head in the game…

Hypnosis-Keeps your head in the game…

“How many emails do I need to send out tomorrow? Did I schedule that meeting that I intended to do? What should I pick up at the grocery store? I think we are low on avocados… mhmm avocados… avocado toast… guac!” Wandering minds, great for reminding us of tasks we need to do…Not so great for sex. This happens a …

Hypnosis for performance? Yeah… its a thing.

Hypnosis for performance? Yeah… its a thing.

You’re going to fail… YOU’RE going to fail… YOU’RE going to FAIL… SEE I TOLD YOU! YOU FAILED!! This is the voice many of my guys hear in their head (the one on their shoulders). I like to refer to this voice as Lex Luther… Superman’s arch nemesis. If you have been reading my Blogs for a bit you know …

The Rule of Three

The Rule of Three

If you have been reading my blogs for a minute you have probably noticed I discuss lots of tips, tricks, strategies, and rules that can assist your sex life and relationships in various ways.  For many, applying one or two of these things works very well and they see rapid improvement. Some others may need to apply ALL of them …