My Partner is Upset That I Keep Losing My Erection
Erectile issues can have devastating effects on relationships. Failing to maintain an erection stops you from pleasing yourself and your partner, leaving you both stressed and sexually frustrated. Sex is also how we show love, and when you can’t seem to do that anymore, well, it’s absolutely heartbreaking. Your partner is upset and you don’t know how to solve it.
Don’t worry: This doesn’t mean your sex life will never be the same, or you won’t be able to please your partner ever again.
What it does mean is that your erectile issue is probably worth looking into. Once you understand what’s causing your problem, it becomes much, much easier to seek a solution.
Why You Keep Losing Your Erection
Erectile dysfunction is broken down into two categories: organic and non-organic. Organic ED is commonly caused by health conditions like diabetes, multiple sclerosis, high blood pressure, as well as side effects of certain medications like antidepressants.
Non-organic ED, on the other hand, stems from psychological or emotional factors, like stress, anxiety, depression, or trauma. These days, plenty of younger men also experience non-organic ED from excessive masturbation and/or watching too much porn.
If you don’t have a serious health condition and you aren’t taking any medications, non-organic ED could be the cause of your erectile issues.
This may actually be good news for you and your partner. Unlike organic ED, non-organic ED can usually be addressed without medication. Here’s what you can do to regain your ability to maintain an erection:
Addressing Non-Organic ED
Since the body and mind are (obviously) directly connected, some people have been able to treat non-organic ED by leading a healthier lifestyle. That means getting more exercise, eating healthier, getting more sleep, and limiting alcohol. You could also benefit from stress-relieving activities like yoga or meditation.
Of course, changing your lifestyle won’t make your erectile issues go away over night. It’s still going to impact your relationship, and that’s why it could be very helpful to visit a sex therapist.
How Couples Can Work Through ED with Sex Therapy
Sex therapy gives you and your partner a neutral, safe environment to talk about your erectile issues. Since both partners are very upset, it’s important for each of you to express how you’re feeling and voice your concerns about your sex life. Realizing that you’re both experiencing similar emotions can help you move forward and tackle this sexual hiccup together.
A board-certified sex therapist like me will also work with you to identify the underlying cause of your ED, which is a major step forward to treating the condition. Once you know the root of your issue, you can learn how to overcome these mental hurdles and relax in the security of your loving partner.
Lastly, a sex therapist can show you and your partner how to continue pleasing each other in the meantime. There are plenty of ways to keep your sex life healthy, and sex therapy is where you figure out what kind of activities you and your partner prefer.
If you’re struggling with ED and your partner is getting frustrated, contact us at Blue Pearl Therapeutic today.We specialize in helping couples adapt to biological changes and rekindle their sex lives, and it all begins with expressing ourselves in a safe space.