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When You and Your Partner Have Mismatched Kinks

When You and Your Partner Have Mismatched Kinks

You don’t have to be a relationship expert to know that many happy couples don’t share every single one of each other’s interests. It’s the way lots of successful couples work, in my experience: There are some things they share in common, and some things they don’t.  This can range from your choice in fashion to your taste in food …

What’s Stopping You from Orgasming?

What’s Stopping You from Orgasming?

Based on what we see in the media, you’d think that having an orgasm comes as naturally to everyone as brushing your teeth. In reality, lots of people have a very difficult time accessing the sexual pleasure they deserve. I’ve met men and women who have no trouble getting aroused – and even feel like they’re close to climaxing – …

Causes of Pelvic Pain and Painful Sex in People with Uteruses

Causes of Pelvic Pain and Painful Sex in People with Uteruses

Painful sex isn’t a topic that’s openly discussed, but it’s something many women experience at one point or another. It can even affect women as young as their 20s and 30s. All the pleasure you felt from sex suddenly gets replaced by a throbbing pain in your pelvic region.  This may be an early sign of a disorder that causes …

Pregnancy Sex 101: A Guide to Getting It On Every Trimester

Pregnancy Sex 101: A Guide to Getting It On Every Trimester

If you find yourself feeling frisky when you’re expecting, you’re not alone. A heightened sex drive is an extremely common experience in pregnant women. You’ll be pleased to know it’s completely healthy to act on these natural desires. And – the best part –  it will feel absolutely amazing, too! However, pregnancy sex becomes a little different than pre-pregnancy sex as …

What is “Excessive” Porn Watching?

What is “Excessive” Porn Watching?

When watching porn every day is considered “normal,” it’s not so easy to tell when you’ve crossed the line into overconsumption. It also doesn’t help that much like drinking, social media, and other common vices, countless people will openly admit to themselves they watch too much porn.  But how many of these people are actually watching porn at an unhealthy …

My Partner Caught Me Watching Porn and is Pissed. Isn’t it Normal?

My Partner Caught Me Watching Porn and is Pissed. Isn’t it Normal?

There’s nothing wrong with watching porn here and there. However, unless you and your partner both enjoy watching porn together, it’s something that potentially makes one’s partner uncomfortable. It’s a common feeling to not like the idea of their partner seeking sexual pleasure from an image or video of someone other than themself.  So, if your partner catches you watching …

Frustrated That Your Partner Can’t Get it Up? It’s Not Always About You

Frustrated That Your Partner Can’t Get it Up? It’s Not Always About You

If your partner is having trouble achieving or maintaining an erection, it may be easy to assume it’s your fault. After all, you’re in a committed relationship, so the only sexual partners you and your partner have are each other. Who else could be at fault beside you? There is a certain logic to thinking that you must be doing …

Anxiety & Sexual Performance: How to Overcome Anxiety-Driven E.D.

Anxiety & Sexual Performance: How to Overcome Anxiety-Driven E.D.

Anxiety is extremely common in adults of all ages these days. Even though it’s technically falls under the mental health umbrella, anxiety can most certainly affect different aspects of your physical health – including your sex life.  In most cases, anxiety stems from the fear of a future event – specifically of a negative experience happening again. For example: if …

How to Feel Deserving of Sexual Pleasure as a LGBTQ+ Person

How to Feel Deserving of Sexual Pleasure as a LGBTQ+ Person

Y’all, if I had a dollar for every time someone stepped into my office and was unsure if they deserved sexual pleasure – oof, I’d have way too much money to count.  Society has done a little number on all of us, from all of our many backgrounds, where we question if we truly deserve to experience sexual pleasure. (Spoiler …

Queer Dating Apps: How to Stay Safe and Find Meaningful Connections

Queer Dating Apps: How to Stay Safe and Find Meaningful Connections

Y’all, by now, we are all well-versed in the basic safety precautions of online dating. Meet in a public place. Don’t get too drunk or high. Make sure a friend knows where you’re going so you have an exit strategy.  These precautions are undeniably important, but dating as a queer person comes with its own set of risks and challenges. …