How to Feel Deserving of Sexual Pleasure as a LGBTQ+ Person
Y’all, if I had a dollar for every time someone stepped into my office and was unsure if they deserved sexual pleasure – oof, I’d have way too much money to count.
Society has done a little number on all of us, from all of our many backgrounds, where we question if we truly deserve to experience sexual pleasure. (Spoiler alert: we do!) The LGBTQ+ community is no different.
In today’s world, it seems more people within the community are facing new doubts, frustrations, stress, emotional rollercoasters, and more, which are having a real impact on their sex lives.
Here’s the thing, gang. You don’t need permission to feel joy. You don’t need permission to celebrate and experience passion, eroticism, love, and – yes – orgasms. Gasp! Yes, you deserve orgasms!
Changing Your Perspective on Your Own Sexual Pleasure
While self-doubt, especially in the sexual arena of life, is not restricted to the LGBTQ+ community, there’s a whole heckuva lot of history that weasels its way into how you may view your worth as someone in the community.
Whether it’s your cultural background, religious upbringing, a disastrous past relationship, or otherwise, some obstacles hinder our ability to say to ourselves, “I deserve real love.” And with that – great sex.
I mean, how often were you permitted by your parents, peers, or mentors to be open about your physical needs and desires?
So, the real first step is realizing the only person whose permission you need to feel sexual pleasure – is your own. It’s not easy, and it may take time, but you can do it.
It’s simply focusing on daily affirmations to yourself. You are worthy. You are sexy. You are whole – and hot damn if you don’t have a whole lot of sexual pleasure to give too!
Sharing Your Sexual Experiences in a Meaningful Way
When we think about amazing sexual experiences, many of us associate it with a stranger, a crush, or a hot and heavy one-night stand. But what of sexual experiences with long-term partners?
When we elect to share ourselves with someone we trust, we open ourselves up to experiences that can be even more mind-blowing than those initial fantasies may suggest. When we feel most at ease, we are able to open ourselves up to even bigger, better sexual experiences. Why? Because sex isn’t just about the physical motion of the ocean, if you get my drift. There’s a lot of emotion wrapped up in those touches, licks, and thrusts.
Talk to a Board-Certified Sex Therapist
Most people don’t realize that there are actual Board-Certified Sex Therapists that can help you navigate your own relationship with your body, sex, your partner, your past, and so much more.
That’s where I come in. I’ve worked with countless people and guided them to unlock their potential and their relationship with sex (and so much more). If you’re curious, let’s schedule a 15-minute consultation – absolutely FREE! And see if we’re a good fit.
A whole new sexual experience is waiting for you – if you’re ready for it. Remember, you deserve it.