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Y’all, by now, we are all well-versed in the basic safety precautions of online dating. Meet in a public place. Don’t get too drunk or high. Make sure a friend knows where you’re going so you have an exit strategy. These precautions are undeniably important, but dating as a queer person comes with its own set of risks and challenges. …
Many transgender or non-binary people grow up suffering from gender dysphoria. This is a feeling of unease or discomfort that comes from your physical body not aligning with your gender identity. When you’re this uncomfortable with your body, making physical contact with others can cause physical discomfort, even from a hug. These feelings don’t necessarily just disappear even if you’ve …
You’re attracted to a transgender or non-binary person, but you are out of your depth on what to expect for your first sexual encounter. Hey, you are absolutely not alone. You’d be surprised how many people find themselves in this sort of sexual conundrum these days, especially since queer and transgender sex is not a main topic in sex-ed. The …
A long-term sexual relationship goes beyond physical attraction and pleasure. Yes, sex can sometimes be a purely physical act. But what makes the relationship last is the emotional component. When two people share an emotional bond, sex becomes significantly more fulfilling because you’re not just trying to maximize pleasure or have a great orgasm. You’re showing your affection – or …
You don’t have to be a sex and intimacy therapist to know that lots of people have unrealistic expectations for their sex lives. Maybe it’s because of what they’ve seen on TV or in the movies. Maybe it’s because they’ve watched a little too much porn. Because of external influences like this, people develop their own definitions for what’s considered …
Losing an erection every once in a while is completely normal, even for younger men. But based on your most recent sexual encounters, perhaps it feels like you’ve gone from “every once in a while” to “every single time.” It’s natural to panic in this situation because you don’t know what’s going on. It’s not like you weren’t attracted to …
You love the way your partner makes you feel in bed, and you love pleasing them just as much. If you’re lucky enough to be in a relationship like this, it’s only natural to want to have sex as often as possible. The problem is your partner doesn’t seem to share your desire for more sex. So, how do you …
You don’t have to be a sex and intimacy therapist to know that romantic relationships are complex. Two people can be madly in love despite having completely different interests or personalities. Sometimes, even differences in sexual orientation cannot stop two people from becoming attracted to one another and falling in love. This is known as a Mixed-Orientation Relationship. In most …
If you’ve been diagnosed with genital herpes, it’s imperative that you disclose your diagnosis to anyone you plan on becoming intimate with. It’s normal to worry about being judged when you disclose your diagnosis, because that’s exactly what some people may do. But when you approach the conversation with the right mindset – and don’t wait to long — most …
As one of the most traumatic things a human being can possibly experience, sexual assault is extremely difficult to recover from. Years can go by, and yet a single piece of stimuli like a smell, a word, or a sound can instantly remind your partner of the event, triggering a powerful emotional and/or physical response. When you try to be …