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Can Your Sex Drive INCREASE During Perimenopause?

Can Your Sex Drive INCREASE During Perimenopause?

More desire? Yes, believe it or not, for some women it happens. While most often we hear about libido dropping during perimenopause, for some people, it’s the opposite. Some women may experience a perimenopause sex drive surge! Oh, and it’s a real and valid experience. If that’s happening to you, you’re not imagining it. And no, it’s not random. Your …

Will Menopause Impact Your Sex Life Forever?

Will Menopause Impact Your Sex Life Forever?

When you’re in the throes of perimenopause and menopause, it can feel like this stage of life will last forever. And don’t get me wrong, it does take a long-a$$ time to transition through. But no, hormonal changes aren’t going to impact your sex life forever. And! you can start making moves right now to help you embrace this stage …

Can Menopause Care Boost Your Sex Drive?

Can Menopause Care Boost Your Sex Drive?

Let’s clear something up right away, y’all: if your sex drive has shifted during perimenopause or menopause, it doesn’t mean it’s gone for good. It means your body is changing. And when your body changes, your sexual response changes with it -hormonally, physically, emotionally and relationally. It’s only reasonable to feel frustrated by all that change, too. But here’s the …

Perimenopause Symptoms That May Have Your Libido Down

Perimenopause Symptoms That May Have Your Libido Down

Today we’re going to talk about our good friend, Peri, and by “friend,” I mean the one who shows up unannounced, overstays her welcome, and rearranges everything while she’s here. Yep, perimenopause. For most people with female body parts, Peri tends to arrive sometime in the early 40s, though she can absolutely start dropping subtle hints as early as 35. …

How to Handle the Challenges of Trans Dating and Build Affirming Relationships

How to Handle the Challenges of Trans Dating and Build Affirming Relationships

Dating is a beast in and of itself, and for trans folks, you know all about the added layers of complexity, including identity, safety, politics (ugh) and everything else in between. While this can all sound like just too much sometimes, dating can also bring a mix of excitement and hope. Because trans dating is not just about finding someone …

Understanding How Gender Identity Shapes Your Relationship

Understanding How Gender Identity Shapes Your Relationship

Gender. Now that’s a loaded word if there ever was one. All our lives, we’ve been checking boxes and ticking squares, but gender isn’t something that fits neatly on a form or in a dating app profile. Gender is so much more. It shows up in how we relate, how we communicate, how we experience closeness, and how safe we …

Dating as a Queer Person in a Polarized Political World

Dating as a Queer Person in a Polarized Political World

Oof, y’all, dating is already a full-contact sport on a good day. Now add in dating apps, mixed signals, identity exploration, and a political climate that feels increasingly volatile… and it’s no wonder so many queer folks feel exhausted before the first date even happens. If this sounds familiar, know that you’re not alone, and no, you are not asking …

How to Celebrate Pride Every Day in Your Relationship

How to Celebrate Pride Every Day in Your Relationship

Y’all, Pride isn’t just a month on the calendar and it definitely isn’t just parades, glitter and the occasional overly enthusiastic rainbow merch moment (though we do love those, too). For many LGBTQ+ couples, Pride is about something far bigger than being surrounded by thousands of other like-minded folks. It’s about feeling seen, safe, and fully yourself in your relationship. …

Orgasm and Aging: How Your Pleasure Changes Over Time

Orgasm and Aging: How Your Pleasure Changes Over Time

As we age, our bodies change, our histories become more complex and the ways we experience sexual pleasure also evolves. So, while sex doesn’t stop just because we flip the page on the calendar (oh, hell no, y’all), it may begin to take on a different shape. Some people may notice that orgasms don’t feel the same, or they take …

Can You Have an Orgasm Without Penetration? Yes, Here’s How

Can You Have an Orgasm Without Penetration? Yes, Here’s How

Y’all – spoiler alert: there’s more than one way to orgasm. And no, penetration is not always required. The cultural message that’s been drilled into our brains makes many of us think that “real” orgasms can only happen a certain way. Nope, not true. Your body responds to stimulation in a variety of ways, and sexual pleasure can come from …