Intimacy & Sexual Wellness
Sex. Whew, y’all. Even saying the word out loud can make some people uncomfortable. And believe me, I see it all the time. Even clients who come to sex therapy specifically to talk about intimacy often hesitate when it comes to asking for what they want. And a big part of that hesitation or nervousness is because most of us …
Sex can require sheer vulnerability, and when we open ourselves up to that type of vulnerability, it has the power to create connection, pleasure, confidence, and intimacy. But for many people, it can also stir up something much heavier. Feelings of shame can make it feel like there’s something wrong with you or that you’re somehow not enough (you are!). …
Libido, libido, libido – it can ebb and flow, y’all. And when it dips (and your partner’s doesn’t), it can create quiet tension. Before letting that simmer turn into a full-on boil, it helps to talk about it. Mismatched libidos are extremely common. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or that you’re not compatible with your partner. It …
If intimacy in your relationship has been feeling distant, low-energy, or stuck in logistics mode, you’re not alone and you don’t need a grand romantic gesture to change it. In this post, board-certified sex therapist Gabriela Galvan de Antillon shares five simple intimacy exercises couples can try tonight, no planning required. These practices are designed to rebuild emotional and physical …
More desire? Yes, believe it or not, for some women it happens. While most often we hear about libido dropping during perimenopause, for some people, it’s the opposite. Some women may experience a perimenopause sex drive surge! Oh, and it’s a real and valid experience. If that’s happening to you, you’re not imagining it. And no, it’s not random. Your …
When you’re in the throes of perimenopause and menopause, it can feel like this stage of life will last forever. And don’t get me wrong, it does take a long-a$$ time to transition through. But no, hormonal changes aren’t going to impact your sex life forever. And! you can start making moves right now to help you embrace this stage …
Let’s clear something up right away, y’all: if your sex drive has shifted during perimenopause or menopause, it doesn’t mean it’s gone for good. It means your body is changing. And when your body changes, your sexual response changes with it -hormonally, physically, emotionally and relationally. It’s only reasonable to feel frustrated by all that change, too. But here’s the …
Today we’re going to talk about our good friend, Peri, and by “friend,” I mean the one who shows up unannounced, overstays her welcome, and rearranges everything while she’s here. Yep, perimenopause. For most people with female body parts, Peri tends to arrive sometime in the early 40s, though she can absolutely start dropping subtle hints as early as 35. …
Gender. Now that’s a loaded word if there ever was one. All our lives, we’ve been checking boxes and ticking squares, but gender isn’t something that fits neatly on a form or in a dating app profile. Gender is so much more. It shows up in how we relate, how we communicate, how we experience closeness, and how safe we …
As we age, our bodies change, our histories become more complex and the ways we experience sexual pleasure also evolves. So, while sex doesn’t stop just because we flip the page on the calendar (oh, hell no, y’all), it may begin to take on a different shape. Some people may notice that orgasms don’t feel the same, or they take …