Regardless if You’re Married… Keep Dating…
Marriage… aahhh… it’s so wonderful… you don’t have to worry about whom you’re going to spend holidays with, weddings, or getting a ride to the airport. It really is wonderful to know you have those bases covered. Many of us feel so great about marriage that we start to not worry about the little things like shaving our legs or picking up the wet towel off the bathroom floor. I say regardless if you’ve been married 1 year or 60 years you need to keep dating…
Now I am sure some or most of you have heard that it’s important to keep the flame alive by going out on dates. I totally agree! However, I think we need to take it a bit further… not only should you and your spouse go out on dates with each other (minimum 2 times per month, ideally 1 time per week) but you should keep DATING each other. What I mean by date each other is exactly what we do when we are trying to impress the other person. When we date we put on our best cloths to go to that diner or movie, we open the car door for our loved one, we write little love notes and put it in their jacket pocket. Those little things we do to put our best foot forward, or make that other person feel special needs to continue through the years.
I am fully aware that life happens; work, school, kids, more kids. This can take a toll on romance and the desire to take the extra steps to write that little note or open the car door. So I am going to give it to you straight… if you don’t take these little extra steps… someone else will. This is how infidelity happens. Slowly and over time we forget to celebrate and put our best foot forward with our spouse. Why not! We are married to them! They should make our life easier by just knowing that we love them and care for them. That however is not the case for many couples. Then one or both individuals step out of their relationship. Someone else started to do those little things for them that made them feel special.
So if your spouse has stated to you recently “We don’t go out much anymore,” “You use to be so much fun when we started dating,” “You never wear that dress I love to see you in.” Don’t brush it off, take note, and make some changes. This may be the event that prevents infidelity or opens the door to it.
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Be inspired, connect, life is sexy…
Gabriela
Finding ones’ true self from the seed of consciousness…