How Do I Get My Partner to Have Sex More Often
You love the way your partner makes you feel in bed, and you love pleasing them just as much. If you’re lucky enough to be in a relationship like this, it’s only natural to want to have sex as often as possible.
The problem is your partner doesn’t seem to share your desire for more sex. So, how do you make your needs clear without ruining what you already have?
Newsflash, y’all: There are several ways to communicate your desire for more sex without sitting your partner down and saying, “We need to talk.”
Make Sex Arise Organically
The key to having more sex is deepening the connection between you and your partner. By incorporating more romance into your daily life, you are creating an environment that allows sex to arise organically.
So, the first thing you should do to have more sex is improve the non-sexual aspects of your relationship. For example, you could show more physical affection or offer more words of affirmation. You know what makes your partner feel special. Do they love gifts or gestures? Anything that creates more positive interactions between you and your partner will naturally lead to more sex.
Give a Boost Of Energy to Your Partner
One of the most common reasons couples have less sex is they have less energy. Two easy ways to boost energy is to eat healthy and get more sleep.
Another way to boost energy is to increase the quality of the sex you’re having now. If you make sex more satisfying for your partner, they’ll get a boost of energy from sex and naturally want to do it again and again and again.
How to Express Your Needs to Your Partner
It’s common to not want to communicate directly with your partner about your sexual needs and desires. But, if you’ve tried the non-verbal tips above, it’s time to have a conversation to ensure your needs don’t go ignored. Don’t worry, this doesn’t have to be a tense conversation. In fact, it’s actually the complete opposite.
Think about it: If you didn’t love having sex with your partner, you wouldn’t want to have more of it. So, when revealing your needs to your partner, keep the conversation positive by reminding them how much you love pleasing them – and the way they please you.
Rest assured, your partner will be happy to learn how impressed you are with their work in the bedroom. There’s a chance your partner isn’t even aware of how skilled they are at making you feel good. When you find out you’re good at something, don’t you want to do it more often, and get even better at it in the process?
It’s understandable to be nervous about a conversation like this. Sex isn’t a topic you can just bring up out of the blue, and the last thing you want to do is make your partner feel sexually inadequate.
If you’re having trouble expressing your sexual needs to your partner, sex and intimacy therapy can be very helpful. I’ve helped many couples foster open communication about their sex lives to make sure neither partner feels neglected or pressured into doing something they don’t want to do.
Let’s schedule a FREE consultation so we can find the best way to bring your needs to your partner’s attention.