Are you having enough sex with your partner?
How often should you be having sex with your partner?
There’s no right answer here.
Actually, back up. There is a right answer.
The normal amount is whatever you and your significant other are happy with.
If you and your partner are happy with the amount of sex you’re having, then great! Sex is an essential part of a relationship. But sex is a part of the physical intimacy needed to maintain a relationship.
Physical intimacy can also include:
- Cuddling
- Oral and manual stimulation
- Sharing sexual fantasies
If you and your partner are happy and fulfilled with how your physically intimate moments are shaping up, then that’s what’s important.
But what if you want to have more sex?
Now some of you may be saying, “Gabriela, that’s all well and good, but I don’t feel as satisfied with the amount of sex we’ve been having.” And that’s good to know too.
There can be a couple of reasons as to why you’re not having more sex. Things like:
- Stress
- Insecurities
- Medical issues or chronic medical issues
- Smart devices
- Lowered connection
Communicating your desires and needs with your significant other is key. It doesn’t have to be a serious “we need to talk” style of communicating either. There’s ways of fostering a more sensual environment that takes both you and your partner’s needs into consideration.
Tips on having more sex
Focus on your relationship
Your sexual satisfaction and the quality of your relationship are key. Building up the non-sexual parts of your relationship can help your sex life.
Increase your positivity ratio
Creating more positive interactions—physical affection, compliments, etc—helps create more positive sexual interactions.
Set the mood
Sex doesn’t have to be something you have to wait for. Seduce your partner by setting the mood by lighting candles, putting on sexy music, or wearing that fun little outfit you’ve been holding on to.
Aim for variety
Physical intimacy can include actions other than just sex. Adding variety, such as heavy kissing or manual stimulation can add just enough spice to kick things off.
Make it good for your partner
Sex is about being intimate and making yourself and your partner feel good. Don’t think about sex as just something you want. Make it something you both want to fulfill.
One of the best things you can do to have more sex is to increase the quality of the sex you’re having now.
Always quality over quantity, my lovelies 😀
By making sex more gratifying for you and your partner, you both will be able to take on as much or as little as you desire.
But like any other part of a relationship, you might have to foster that desire a bit.
If you’re unsure how to foster it on your own, then get in touch with me today.
I help couples reconnect, rediscover and reignite parts of themselves that they didn’t even know were there.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Gabriela 😉