What to do or say when your partner is having ED issues
Symptoms
There are signs you can look out for if you think your partner is having erection problems:
- Trouble getting an erection
- Trouble maintaining an erection
- Having an erection not firm enough for sexual intercourse
- Low interest in sex
If this sounds like your partner, it may be time to start talking about ED with them, if you haven’t already.
Starting the conversation
First things first, you don’t want to have a conversation about your partner’s ED in the bedroom. People can often feel vulnerable and this kind of conversation can put a lot of pressure on them.
That doesn’t mean avoid the conversation. Pick a neutral place, away from the bedroom and at a time you both agree on so you know the conversation will be happening.
Some conversation tips you can focus on:
Stay positive
It’s important to talk about what your partner’s needs may be and how you both can work towards them.
Talk about how you feel
ED affects the both of you. Of course it’s important to focus on your partner’s experience with the condition. But connecting your emotions can help you both move forward.
Reassure them
ED in younger people can cause or be caused by feelings of anxiety, embarrassment or shame. Let your partner know you care about them and are ready to help them see this condition through.
Learn as much as you can
Knowledge is power, they say. A supportive partner should learn about ED and other related health problems. Keeping track of lifestyle changes, diet, etc. could help a professional pinpoint the root causes of the condition.
Problem-solving together
Remind your partner that you’re ready to tackle this problem with them. This doesn’t mean you have to solve the problem right away. But you both can take steps together to have a fulfilling sex life while tackling this problem. Things like:
Adjust your sex life
ED doesn’t have to mean you stop giving and receiving pleasure with your partner. Experiment with foreplay, toys or other sexual activities to keep things spicy.
Medications
There are a few underlying health problems that can cause ED, such as diabetes, high cholesterol or kidney diseases. If your ED is caused by a health problem like these, medication can possibly be a way to treat the condition and your ED as a result.
Counseling
Since ED can also be caused by emotional or psychological reasons, counseling can go a long way in addressing the underlying causes. It can also give you a space to talk about how ED is affecting you and your emotions without judgment or shame.
If you think you’re struggling with ED and want a safe space to unpack all the things you may be feeling, contact us at Blue Pearl Therapeutic today to schedule your FREE consultation.
Let’s work together.
Gabriela