Is a Lack of Emotional Satisfaction Impacting Your Relationship?
A long-term sexual relationship goes beyond physical attraction and pleasure. Yes, sex can sometimes be a purely physical act. But what makes the relationship last is the emotional component. When two people share an emotional bond, sex becomes significantly more fulfilling because you’re not just trying to maximize pleasure or have a great orgasm.
You’re showing your affection – or dare I say, your love – to your partner and growing closer to them as a human being.
It’s very difficult to sustain a long-term sexual relationship without the emotional component. Eventually, the lack of an emotional connection begins to creep its way into the bedroom, inhibiting the quality of sexual activity.
How Emotions Impact Sexual Relationships
When two people have been intimate with each other for a long time, it’s only natural for romantic feelings to develop. However, people develop feelings at different speeds, and may not be on the same page from an emotional standpoint.
In other words, one person feels more or less connected to their partner, than their partner does to them. There’s an emotional disconnection in the relationship, which can create a similar dynamic in bed.
So, if sex with your longtime partner has started to feel different, a lack of an emotional connection could be the culprit.
Do You or Your Partner Feel Emotionally Unfulfilled?
When you and your partner aren’t on the same page emotionally, sex can feel like less of a mutual experience. One partner might seem to be getting more pleasure and satisfaction than the other. Sex can even feel less satisfying in general, even though neither partner is doing anything differently.
That’s the thing about emotions. You can’t clearly see them sometimes, but something just feels different, or off.
Communicating Your Emotional Needs
When sex with your longtime partner doesn’t feel the same, it’s time to have a conversation to see what’s causing this emotional disconnection. Your partner may be upset with you, but afraid to share their emotions because your relationship has never been this serious. They might want more out of the relationship than what you currently have.
Regardless of what’s troubling you or your partner, the only way to find out is through open communication and active listening. You may discover that your partner cares much more deeply for you than you previously thought.
If you and your partner have never had conversations like this, talking with a sex and intimacy therapist can help you understand how emotions may be impacting your sex lives, and what you can do to preserve the relationship. Counseling also provides a safe, judgment-free zone in which both partners can express themselves without feeling embarrassed or ashamed of their emotions.
So, if you or your partner wants more out of a relationship than physical pleasure, contact me at Blue Pearl Therapeutic and schedule a FREE consultation today.